Toxicity
Toxicity is a very wide topic. But the one thing I wish I knew before is how to recognize a toxic friend.
I have had plenty of toxic friends but I’ve had 2 best friends who were extremely toxic, yet I didn’t know. I thought I was the problem, and because they were toxic it really hurt me in multiple ways.
So now I would like to share what it is having a toxic friend. I wouldn’t want anyone ever having a toxic friend yet it’s something we all went through or will because it is part of life.
But before I begin I would like to first tell you who a toxic person is.
Meaning of a toxic person
A toxic person is someone who hurts other people. They make the lives of those around them worse and cause people to be unhappy, feel negative. They are kind of like a snail who eats your cabbage in the garden, toxic to the plant.
A toxic person is someone who will do anything even if it means lying, cheating, abusing you physically or mentally to get what they want out of their relationship/friendship with you. They don’t care about your feelings because they’re selfish and self-centered, all they think about is themselves.
What it’s like having a toxic friend/partner
Part of what makes a person toxic is the fact that they don’t care about how much pain, stress and heartache they put others through.
A toxic person is someone who always talks badly about other people, although they may tell you that it’s all in good fun. They have to have the last word when arguing their point or right no matter if they are wrong or not.
A toxic person can’t understand that there’s a difference between teasing and making fun of somebody and putting them down. They also don’t realize why their actions could hurt someone else.
They are self-centered, egotistical and don’t care about how their words or actions can affect anyone else.
They are also extremely manipulative when it comes to getting what they want which is always something that would benefit them in some way.
It could be buying them gifts, doing things for them, giving them attention, they crave or force you to do something that will make them happy. I remember when I was in a toxic friendship, I would always buy things for them. They would take advantage of my kindness.
A toxic person’s favorite word is “because” and their favorite phrase is “Because I said so”.
The best thing you can do in a toxic relationship/ friendship is walk away from it because staying in it will only harm you more than it already has. Even if It may take some time to get over.