Without failing, we would never learn, never progress. To become better, we need to fail be bad at something to then, be good.
1. “Maybe things didn’t go as planned, I’m still okay.“
Catastrophizing failure isn’t helpful. Maybe you’ve failed a test, or drivers licence be grateful for the things you do still have. Which you haven’t failed at. Whether you still have your health or you have a roof over your head, there are always things to be grateful for.
2. “Failure its proof I’m pushing myself to my limits.”
You could probably live a safe and boring life that is relatively free of failure if you wanted. But, if you want to become a better version of yourself, you’re going to need to do things that could cause you to fail.
3. “I will focus on the things I can control.”
Failure isn’t always personal. Just because you didn’t get that promotion doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. Instead, it might mean you were simply competing against someone more qualified. Focus on the things you can control like doing your best and focus less on the outcomes that you can’t control like whether you’ll get hired.
4. “Failing feels uncomfortable, but I can handle it.”
Doubting your ability to handle embarrassment, shame, or regret makes the pain of failure last longer. Remind yourself that you can handle failure, and you’ll be more likely to del with the discomfort in a productive manner.
5. “Failure is a verb, not a noun.”
Just because you fail doesn’t mean you’re a failure. everyone succeeds at some things and not at others. Remind yourself of the success that you have had in other areas of your life.